Lessons on Life’s Priority from Cups and Water

Article extract: http://blog.pakfellows.com/index.php/2010/01/25/monday-motivation-your-life-in-a-cup/

A group of working adults got together to visit their University lecturer. The Lecturer was happy to see them. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

The lecturer just smiled and went to the kitchen to get an assortment of cups – some porcelain, some in plastic, some in glass, some plain looking and some looked rather expensive and exquisite. The Lecturer offered his former students the cups to get drinks for themselves.

When all the students had a cup in hand with water, the Lecturer spoke:
If you noticed, all the nice looking, expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal that you only want the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. What all you wanted was water, not the cup, but we unconsciously went for the better cups.

Just like in life, if Life is Water, then the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold/maintain Life, but the quality of Life doesn't change. If we only concentrate on the cup, we won't have time to enjoy, taste and appreciate the water in it.

What is Life About



 
Life isn’t about keeping score.
It’s not about how many friends you have
or how accepted you are.
Not about if you have plans this weekend
or if you’re alone.
It isn’t about who you have kissed.
It isn’t about who your family is
or how much money they have
or what kind of car you drive
or where you are sent to school.

It’s not about how beautiful or ugly you are
or what clothes you wear, what shoes you have on,
or what kind of music you listen to.
It’s not about if your hair is blonde, red, black, or brown,
or if your skin is too light or too dark.
Not about what grades you get how smart you are,
how smart everybody else thinks you are,
or how smart standardized tests say you are.

Life just isn’t.

Life is about who you love and who you hurt.
It’s about who you make happy or unhappy purposely.
It’s about keeping or betraying trust.
It’s about friendship, used as a sanctity or as a weapon.

It’s about what you say and mean, maybe hurtful, maybe heartening.
It’s about starting rumors and contributing to petty gossip.
It’s about what judgments you pass and why,
and who your judgments are spread to.

It’s about who you’ve ignored with full control and intention.
It’s about jealousy, fear, ignorance, and revenge.
It’s about carrying inner hate and love,
letting it grow and spreading it.

But most of all, it’s about using your life to touch
or poison other people’s hearts in such a way
that could have never occurred alone.

Only you choose the way those hearts are affected,
and those choices are what life’s all about.

 

25 句做人的智慧

来源: http://dhlxx.jjtang.com/blog/blog-htm-do-read-uid-672144-tid-152367.html

 

1、记住该记住的,忘记该忘记的。改变能改变的,接受不能改变的。

2、能冲刷一切的除了眼泪,就是时间,以时间来推移感情,时间越长,冲突越淡,仿佛不断稀释的茶。

3、怨言是上天得至人类最大的供物,也是人类祷告中最真诚的部分。

4、智慧的代价是矛盾。这是人生对人生观开的玩笑。

5、世上的姑娘总以为自己是骄傲的公主(除了少数极丑和少数极聪明的姑娘例外)

6、如果敌人让你生气,那说明你还没有胜他的把握。

7、如果朋友让你生气,那说明你仍然在意他的友情。

8、令狐冲说:“有些事情本身我们无法控制,只好控制自己。”

9、我不知道我现在做的哪些是对的,那些是错的,而当我终于老死的时候我才知道这些。所以我现在所能做的就是尽力做好每一件事,然后等待着老死。

10、也许有些人很可恶,有些人很卑鄙。而当我设身为他想象的时候,我才知道:他比我还可怜。所以请原谅所有你见过的人,好人或者坏人。

11、鱼对水说你看不到我的眼泪,因为我在水里.水说我能感觉到你的眼泪,因为你在我心里。

12、快乐要有悲伤作陪,雨过应该就有天晴。如果雨后还是雨,如果忧伤之后还是忧伤.请让我们从容面对这离别之后的离别。微笑地去寻找一个不可能出现的你!

13、死亡教会人一切,如同考试之后公布的结果——虽然恍然大悟,但为时晚矣!

14、你出生的时候,你哭着,周围的人笑着;你逝去的时候,你笑着,而周围的人在哭!一切都是轮回!!!我们都在轮回中!!!!!

15、男人在结婚前觉得适合自己的女人很少,结婚后觉得适合自己的女人很多。

16、于千万人之中,遇见你所遇见的人;于千万年之中,时间的无涯荒野里,没有早一步,也没有晚一步,刚巧赶上了。

17、每个人都有潜在的能量,只是很容易:被习惯所掩盖,被时间所迷离,被惰性所消磨。

18、人生短短几十年,不要给自己留下了什么遗憾,想笑就笑,想哭就哭,该爱的时候就去爱,无谓压抑自己。

19、《和平年代》里的话:当幻想和现实面对时,总是很痛苦的。要么你被痛苦击倒,要么你把痛苦踩在脚下。

20、真正的爱情是不讲究热闹不讲究排场不讲究繁华更不讲究嚎头的。

21、生命中,不断地有人离开或进入。于是,看见的,看不见的;记住的,遗忘了。生命中,不断地有得到和失落。于是,看不见的,看见了;遗忘的,记住了。然而,看不见的,是不是就等于不存在?记住的,是不是永远不会消失?

22、我们确实活得艰难,一要承受种种外部的压力,更要面对自己内心的困惑。在苦苦挣扎中,如果有人向你投以理解的目光,你会感到一种生命的暖意,或许仅有短暂的一瞥,就足以使我感奋不已。

23、我不去想是否能够成功,既然选择了远方,便只顾风雨兼程;我不去想,身后会不会袭来寒风冷雨,既然目标是地平线,留给世界的只能是背影。

24、后悔是一种耗费精神的情绪.后悔是比损失更大的损失,比错误更大的错误.所以不要后悔。

25、日出东海落西山,愁也一天,喜也一天;遇事不钻牛角尖,人也舒坦,心也舒坦。

Wisdom from Dhammavadaka

Remember always that you are just a visitor here, a traveler passing through. Your stay is but short and the moment of your departure unknown.

None can live without toil, and a craft that provides your needs is a blessing indeed. But if you toil without rest, fatigue and weariness will overtake you, and you will be denied the joy that comes from labour’s end.

Speak quietly and kindly and be not forward with either opinions or advice. If you talk much, this will make you deaf to what others say, and you should know that there are few so wise that they cannot learn from others.

Be near when help is needed, but far when praise and thanks are being offered.

Take small account of might, wealth and fame, for they soon pass and are forgotten. Instead, nurture love within you and strive to be a friend to all. Truly, compassion is a balm for many wounds.

Treasure silence when you find it, and while being mindful of your duties, set time aside, to be alone with yourself. Cast off pretense and self-deception and see yourself as you really are.

Despite all appearances, no one is really evil. They are led astray by ignorance. If you ponder this truth always you will offer more light, rather than blame and condemnation.

You, no less than all beings, have Buddha Nature within. Your essential Mind is pure. Therefore, when defilements cause you to stumble and fall, let not remorse nor dark foreboding cast you down. Be of good cheer and with this understanding, summon strength and walk on.

Faith is like a lamp and wisdom makes the flame burn bright. Carry this lamp always and in good time the darkness will yield and you will abide in the Light.

聖嚴法師108自在法語(第一集) 之 提昇人品

聖嚴法師108自在法語(第一集) 之 提昇人品

http://www.buddha-hi.net/re/thread-23587-1-1.html

提昇人品:

  1. 需要的不多,想要的太多。
  2. 知恩報恩為先,利人便是利己。
  3. 盡心盡力第一,不爭你我多少。
  4. 慈悲沒有敵人,智慧不起煩惱。
  5. 忙人時間最多,勤勞健康最好。
  6. 布施的人有福,行善的人快樂。
  7. 心量要大,自我要小。
  8. 要能放下,才能提起。提放自如,是自在人。
  9. 識人識己識進退,時時身心平安;知福惜福多培福,處處廣結善緣。
  10. 提得起放得下,年年吉祥如意;用智慧種福田,日日都是好日。
  11. 身心常放鬆,逢人面帶笑;放鬆能使我們身心健康,帶笑容易增進彼此友誼。
  12. 話到口邊想一想,講話之前慢半拍。不是不說,而是要惜言慎語。
  13. 在生活中,不妨養成「能有,很好;沒有,也沒關係」的想法,便能轉苦為樂,便會比較自在了。
  14. 四安:安心、安身、安家、安業。
  15. 四要:需要、想要、能要、該要。
  16. 四感:感恩、感謝、感化、感動。
  17. 四它:面對它、接受它、處理它、放下它。
  18. 四福:知福、惜福、培福、種福。
  19. 能要、該要的才要;不能要、不該要的絕對不要。
  20. 感恩能使我們成長,報恩能助我們成就。
  21. 感謝給我們機會,順境、逆境皆是恩人。
  22. 遇到好事,要隨喜、讚歎、鼓勵,並且虛心學習。
  23. 少批評、多讚美,是避免造口業的好方法。
  24. 平常心就是最自在、最愉快的心。
  25. 踏實地走一步路,勝過說一百句空洞的漂亮語。
  26. 知道自己的缺點愈多,成長的速度愈快,對自己的信心也就愈堅定。
  27. 多聽多看少說話,快手快腳慢用錢。
  28. 唯有體驗了艱苦的境遇,才會有精進奮發的心。
  29. 踏踏實實做人,心胸要廣大;穩穩當當做事,著眼宜深遠。

聖嚴法師108自在法語(第一集) 之 享受工作

聖嚴法師108自在法語(第一集) 之 享受工作

http://www.buddha-hi.net/re/thread-23587-1-1.html

享受工作:

  1. 忙而不亂,累而不疲。
  2. 忙得快樂,累得歡喜。
  3. 「忙」沒關係,不「煩」就好。
  4. 工作要趕不要急,身心要鬆不要緊。
  5. 應該忙中有序的趕工作,不要緊張兮兮的搶時間。
  6. 不要以富貴貧賤論成敗得失,只要能盡心盡力來自利利人。
  7. 任勞者必堪任怨,任事者必遭批評。怨言之下有慈忍,批評之中藏金玉。
  8. 隨遇而安,隨緣奉獻。
  9. 成功的三部曲是:隨順因緣、把握因緣、創造因緣。
  10. 見有機緣宜把握,沒有機緣要營造,機緣未熟不強求。
  11. 人生的起起落落,都是成長的經驗。
  12. 用智慧處理事,以慈悲關懷人。
  13. 以智慧時時修正偏差,以慈悲處處給人方便。
  14. 慈悲心愈重,智慧愈高,煩惱也就愈少。
  15. 面對許多的情況,只管用智慧處理事,以慈悲對待人,而不擔心自己的利害得失,就不會有煩惱了。
  16. 心隨境轉是凡夫;境隨心轉是聖賢。
  17. 大鴨游出大路,小鴨游出小路,不游就沒有路。
  18. 山不轉路轉,路不轉人轉,人不轉心轉。
  19. 「精進」不等於拼命,而是努力不懈。
  20. 船過水無痕,鳥飛不留影,成敗得失都不會引起心情的波動,那就是自在解脫的大智慧。
  21. 給人方便等於給自己方便。
  22. 甘願吃明虧,是仁者;受辱吃暗虧,是愚蠢。
  23. 壓力通常來自對身外事物過於在意,同時也過於在意他人的評斷。
  24. 用感恩的心、用報恩的心,來做服務的工作,便不會感到倦怠與疲累。
  25. 隨時隨地心存感激,以財力、體力、智慧、心力、來做一切的奉獻。