Friendship

Friendship . . .

. . . is you.
. . . is love.
. . . is shared.
. . . is forgiving.
. . . is understanding.
. . . is shared secrets.
. . . heals many hurts.
. . . is not judgmental.
. . . is shared laughter.
. . . is slow and steady.
. . . can be angry at times.
. . . is dependable and true.
. . . is more precious than silver or gold.
. . . is meant to be savored like fine wine.
. . . is not perfect, much like we are not perfect.
. . . does not hold grudges or demand perfection.
. . . makes all the wrong things in life, right somehow.
. . . is meant to be gulped like lemonade on a hot summer day.
. . . is always there, through times of trial, happy times and hard times.
. . . just happens, but once discovered, needs to be tended like a beautiful garden.
. . . is a road to be traveled slowly, remembering the sights and sounds.
. . . is strength when you are too weak to notice its there.
. . . is a cherished moment of mutual understanding.
. . . reaches into your heart and grabs a firm hold.
. . . is a refreshing rain on a hot day.
. . . is sunshine through the clouds.
. . . cannot be forced or induced.
. . . is relaxed and comfortable.
. . . is a shoulder to lean on.
. . . is an ear to whine to.
. . . gets better with age.
. . . is shared tears.
. . . is shared pain.
. . . is shared joy.
. . . is shared.
. . . is love.
. . . is you.

Enemy or Friends?

Source: http://utuhpaloi.com/2011/05/15/sparrow-cow-dung-and-cat/

Once upon a time there was a non-conformist sparrow. So steadfast was its conviction that, even on the onset of winter, it decided not to fly south like the rest of the flock.

Soon, the weather turned very cold. At last, the sole remaining sparrow reluctantly decided to fly south. Soon after, ice began to form on its wings and the poor little bird fell to the ground near a barnyard, and almost frozen.

The sparrow thought this was the end. As it prepared to take the last breath, a cow passed by and crapped on the little bird. The sparrow now thought this was really the end, but the manure, somehow warmed it up and defrosted its wings.

Warm and happy and able to breathe again, the sparrow began to sing. The barnyard cat, hearing the chirping, came to investigate. When the cat cleared away the manure, it found the sparrow, and wasted no time feasting upon it.

There are three morals to this story:

1. Everyone who shits on you is not always your enemy.

2. Everyone who gets you out of shit is not necessarily your friend.

3. If you’re warm and happy in a pile of shit, keep your mouth shut!

敵人與朋友

我的一位朋友,曾跟我說過一個很有意思的故事,他告訴我:

有一隻小麻雀,由南方往北方飛。

因為天氣變得好冷、好冷……,最後小麻雀的身體凍成冰塊,掉到了地上。

瀕臨死亡邊緣的小麻雀,內心不斷的祈禱,希望能有奇蹟發生,讓牠能恢復體溫,順利地飛到南方,避過寒冷的冬天。

後來,有隻行動遲緩的大笨牛經過,走到被凍僵的小麻雀身旁時正巧內急,於是在麻雀身上撒了好大的一坨牛屎。

牛屎的溫度,將小麻雀身上的冰凍融化了;小麻雀僥倖死裡逃生,又感覺到十分地溫暖,心中非常快樂,便高興地吱吱喳喳大聲唱起歌來。

這時候,一隻飢餓的野貓聽到聲音;走了過來,仔細查看聲音的來源,終於找到那堆牛屎。

野貓把堆積在小麻雀身上的牛屎,用爪子輕輕撥開,然後大嘴一張,就這樣把小麻雀給吃掉了。

朋友說到這裡,我打岔問他:「這個故事有什麼特殊的涵義嗎?

我的朋友告訴我:「當然有——這個故事告訴我們,把大便放在我們身上的,未必就是敵人。而將大便從我們身上撥掉的,也未必是朋友,最重要的是,當你覺得很得意的時候;千萬記得,一定要——閉上你的鳥嘴!」

的確,將責難放在我們身上的,未必就是敵人;而將痛苦從我們身上撥掉的,也未必是朋友!

Everybody Somebody Anybody Nobody

Once upon a time there were 4 men named:
Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and Nobody.

There was an important job to be done and Everybody was asked to do it.

But Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it.

Anybody could have done it. But Nobody did it.

Somebody got angry about it, because it was Everybody‘s job.

Everybody thought that Anybody could do it,
and Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn’t do it.

It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody
and Nobody did the job that Anybody could have done in the first place.

At last report, these 4 men were still arguing and the job they were supposed to do still wasn’t done.

不知足 怨天尤人:八种心态活得累


不知足 怨天尤人:八种心态活得累

1、以抱怨的态度对待生活中的事情,怨天尤人,很少获得满足感。

2、经常怀疑别人的所作所为包藏不良动机,心胸狭隘,难以与人沟通思想感情。

3、小事不愿做,大事做不来,拒绝尝试新的事物,以消极、被动的态度对待生活。

4、企图取悦所有的人,让别人牵着自己的鼻子走。

5、生活目标过高,脱离实际,久经拼搏也无法实现,挫折感由此而生,以致最终意志消沉。

6、没有做人的原则,凡事都听命于人,无主见。

7、希望别人能围着自己转,以我为中心,听不进不同意见,爱发号施令,知错不改。

8、依赖性过强,无病呻吟,小病大养,时时处处都希望得到别人的关心和照顾。